April 19, 2013 Defend or not defend that is the question

No one wants to find themselves in a dangerous situation, but it happens. Like it or not, we live in a violent world. There are assaults on people and homes on a daily basis. There are some very unpleasant people out there that prey on those they perceive to be weak and vulnerable. Most people mistakenly believe that it will never happen to them.

Thinking about being attacked or assaulted is unpleasant, so the majority of us try not to think about it. But unless you do address it, ignoring it can be much worse. Although the majority of people who live in a civilized society with experienced and organized law enforcement, we can’t assume that we’ll be protected by the police. In the majority of assaults or attacks, the police won’t be there when you come across a potential attacker. You’ll have to think and act quickly and decisively if you want to come out of it unharmed and to be prepared to defend yourself or loved ones when in danger.

Before you learn the hands-on skills of self defence, you must change the way you think and view your environment, perhaps, make changes to your lifestyle to reduce your risk of being attacked. “Every place is safe until danger reveals itself; you don’t know when danger will strike, and how it will strike so take precautions.”

You should be keenly aware of your surroundings as a proactive means of self protection to yourself and loved ones. Be careful at cash machines, don’t text, or wear headphones with loud music while you’re at the park or other public place. Keep your head up and know who and what potential danger is around you. Try to keep a clear head while you’re out and about. You won’t be as alert. Being aware of your surroundings will help you see or feel if someone is watching or preying you.”

Physical self-defense is the use of physical force to counter an immediate threat of violence or assault. Such force can be either armed or unarmed. In either case, the chances of success depend on a large number of factors, related to the severity of the threat on one hand, but also on the physical and mental preparation of the defender.

We have been conditioned by modern society to refer to experts on topics that we know little about. We hire a mechanic to fix our car, we pay a financial advisor to manage our investments and, and we call an electrician to repair a fault on the electrics. However, your self defence and personal protection of you or your family is not something that you can hire out. Unless you have the means to hire a personal security detail, you should take the initiative and be proactive in your approach to learn how to protect yourself and your loved ones.

Even celebrities and public figures who can afford to hire bodyguards are advised to take self defence training.

Be prepared you will need to go over scenarios so you’ll have an action/reaction plan in case you are attacked. The best way to do it is by playing the “What If” game: What if I’m being followed? What if someone grabs me by the arm? “Your mind is a computer and will instinctively go to the fight-or-flight file if you’re threatened in a dangerous situation, if you have nothing in there, you are going to freeze and do nothing to protect yourself. Prepare your mind by thinking things through.

Prepare – Taking a self defence class is an excellent idea, but you don’t have to become a black belt to protect yourself. Learn some basic self defence and practice the principles and techniques until you feel comfortable using them.

Awareness – educate yourself on the dangers, how to avoid them, and what to do if you find yourself in a dangerous situation.

Educate yourself and don’t be a victim. Don’t rely on any one else for your personal protection or self defence.
The take-home message is that you’re not helpless and the actions you take matter, the main objective in self defence is to become a force to be reckoned with because it may just save your life. The more proactive you are in approach to your personal safety and that of your family, the safer you are. Keep in mind there is no fair fight or rules when you are attacked. You must take every advantage that you can, you get what you get, use every ounce of your energy to overcome your assailant.

The best way to defend yourself and save your life is to take a proactive approach and prepare yourself mentally and physically.

You can help yourself, defending your life and certainly buy time for the police to get there.


Written by candalabra



I just completed the level 1 kapap course, I’ve been doing different types of martial arts and self defence for many years, and I was very impressed with the course.

Sam took the 5 day course, his knowledge and style of teaching made everyone comfortable which made the learners learn the kapap techniques more easily.

The system covers a wide variety of techniques both empty hand aswell as weapons, single attacks to multiple attacks, the kapap leaves no stone unturned. I would recommend it to anyone.

Jimmy Kelly

The KAPAP ethos of family, no bull and big ego’s is positively refreshing to say the least. Sam has an amazing amount of knowledge and I have nothing but admiration for his teaching style.

Since starting my own small KAPAP club in Great Yarmouth support from Sam and other members of the KAPAP UK community has been absolutely brilliant and I can’t thank them enough for this.

Brett Mackenzie